Unrealistic about love?

You may be frustrated with the latest crop of losers who have tried (and failed) to catch your eye, but that doesn’t mean finding a decent guy with relationship potential is impossible. Yes, you could be experiencing a dry spell where good men are concerned, but the problem could also lie in your attitude toward dating. Here are a few ways to tell if you’re being unrealistic about love.

  You're waiting for the fairy tale.
We know Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty ended up with Prince Charming, and Kate Middleton is on her way to becoming royalty, but not everyone can end up living the life of a princess. We're not saying you should settle for someone you don't love or who doesn't treat you well, but holding out for magical love that epitomizes a storybook happy ending might mean you're waiting a while. Refocus your attention on finding a cute guy who treats you well but who may not have a castle waiting for you.

You've put yourself on a pedestal.

You should respect yourself and not let anyone walk all over you. If you're waiting for the one guy who will spend every waking minute telling you how gorgeous you are and buying you expensive gifts, however, you have an unrealistic view of love. A relationship is give and take, not just take and take. Hop down from your pedestal if you want a shot at lasting love.Trust me, not everyone can be like manduli.

You think love is like the movies.

Love in the movies is epic, dramatic and fraught with frantic passion -- not usually the stuff of real life. So rather than wait for Brad Pitt or George Clooney to come calling, consider the reality: The love you find, while amazing, won't be the same kind of love you see on screen. Unless your new guy is a spy or on the run after robbing from the rich and giving to the poor, your life will be pretty normal. Don't wait for the nigerian version of love to present itself. You could miss out on something great in the meantime.

10 Signs he's cheating on you Is He A Cheater?

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Studies reveal that 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at one time or another during their marriage. Often the women in their lives have no clue what they did. You need to have some basic knowledge to protect yourself. So how does one spot a cheater? Here are 10 warning signs that your man may stray... or that he is already cheating on you.
 

He has cheated before

Undoubtedly, past cheating behavior is the most reliable predictor for future cheating behavior.

He is a narcissist

People with narcissistic personality traits feel that they're entitled to more things than other people. They're more likely to cheat because they feel they don't have to play by the rules.

He has no sense of guilt

Men who don't feel remorse or guilt when they do something wrong are prime candidates for cheating. They won't have those emotions holding them back.

 

He's an excellent liar

If he is good at lying about other things in his life, then he is likely good at lying to you about cheating.

He learned it at home

If one or both of his parents were routinely unfaithful, then he is more likely to be inclined to cheat.

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He recently lost his job

Unemployment puts strain on a marriage and can make a man feel vulnerable, especially if the job was important to him and defined his identity. When a man doesn't feel so good about himself, he may boost his self-esteem through an affair.

He is spending less time with you

You're watching TV; he's on the computer. You go to bed; he stays up late. You're in the same house but not really together. If a man is organizing his life to spend less time with you, it doesn't really matter whether he has met someone. Behavior like this signals a distance that becomes a breeding ground for infidelity.

He is being less affectionate

Perhaps he doesn't cuddle with you in bed anymore. Or he comes to bed fully dressed when he once slept nude. These are all ways of disconnecting and may indicate he is getting his intimacy somewhere else.

His computer habits have changed

Check his computer's browser history once in a while to see where he's been. A new and secretive email account would be a red flag. A new email account doesn't necessarily mean your significant other is having an affair; but it becomes more likely if he is not willing to share the content of the account with you.

His cell phone habits have changed

Lastly, beware of new cell phone habits. For example, he suddenly gets a new phone with a password lock. Or perhaps now he keeps his cell phone in his pocket when in the past he would leave it on the counter. Or maybe he used to make calls and send texts while you were around, but now excuses himself each time the phone rings.