How to bounce back after a breakup

Feel Better
After A Split

• Posted on Mar 31, 2011 12:13 PM by shee

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Though a breakup can make you feel like your life is over, try not to let it stop you in your tracks. Here are some strategies you can implement to bounce back after a breakup.

Don't be a hermit.

We know: All you want to do is mope around the house in your pajamas. Don't let yourself be a hermit after a breakup, though. Get out there and reconnect with your friends. Your relationship may have taken away time from your girlfriends, so reach out and make plans to see your BFFs more regularly. You'll have a good time and heal much faster being around people who care about you.

Change things up.

Get your morning coffee from a cafe you've never visited. Listen to new music. Take a new class at the gym. Stretch your culinary skills by trying new recipes. By deliberately doing things differently than you did when your ex was around, you'll prove to yourself that life goes on -- and that there are always new things to discover no matter how sad you feel.

Get creative.

Minimize any pent-up frustration with creativity. Start that novel you've always wanted to write, rediscover your love of photography or take a pottery class -- anything that will get you out of your current negative mindset and out of your own head. Being creative is a great way to let go of sadness and tap into talents you might not realize you have.

Update your look.

Improve your outlook and your self esteem by getting a makeover, a new haircut and some new clothes.  You'll feel better knowing that you're making an effort to better yourself. Plus, you'll have a whole new look that represents positive change rather than the negative status quo.

Branch out.

If you can't remember the last time you left your neighborhood for anything other than a doctor's appointment or work function, it's time to do some exploring. Grab some friends and make plans to have dinner or drinks across town or head to some galleries or a museum you've never had time to check out. Getting away from all the places you used to frequent with your ex will help you get over him, and you'll find some great bars, cafes and restaurants you can call your own.

Signs your relationship won't last much longer

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Signs Of Love
Gone Wrong

• Posted on Apr 06, 2011 2:09 PM by njixx

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If you’ve been dating someone for a few months and aren’t sure how strong your bond really is, here are a few signs that your relationship probably isn't going to last much longer.

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1.You're bored already-

All relationships end up in ruts at some point, but if you're already feeling less-than-impressed with where things are going, your love might be waning. The beginning of a relationship should feel fresh, new and exciting. If you're bored, you might want to make a beeline for the exit because sticking around isn't worth it if you're not having fun.

2. You always sweat the small stuff.

If you alway cringe when he says certain things, laughs a certain way or texts you little jokes you think are stupid, you're just not into him anymore. Getting upset over minor mistakes or inconsequential items will just drive you crazy. Break free.

3. You crave alone time -- a lot.

At the beginning of most relationships, you'd rather spend time with your new guy than by yourself. If you'd rather he not come by after work or take you out on the weekend, something is definitely wrong. Re-evaluate the relationship if you'd rather be alone than with your boyfriend.

4. You just can't be bothered.

Relationships require a certain amount of effort to thrive. If you're just not motivated to try, it's only a matter of time before you two call it quits.

5. You don't trust him.

A relationship requires trust. If you no longer trust your partner, you aren't going to be happy. Whether he lied to you, was unfaithful or just can't seem to keep his stories straight, trust can be very hard to regain once lost, and moving on may be the only answer.

6.You fight more than talk.

All couples argue -- some more regularly than others -- but if you can't remember the last time you communicated in a way that didn't involve yelling, it might be time to call it quits. "Good" arguments help resolve a relationship issue, benefiting your relationship in the end. If the two of you are just fighting for the sake of it, however -- just to belittle or demean each other's ideas -- the relationship isn't going to work.

7.You can't be happy for him.

One of the great things about being in a loving relationship is feeling happy for your significant other.  Love is most likely the furthest thing from your mind if you are ambivalent about his new promotion or attainment of a long-awaited goal. You're ready to pack your bags altogether if you're secretly hoping he fails or loses.

8.You're unhappy when you're together.

We don't recommend ending a relationship at the first sign of boredom or dissatisfaction. If you can't recall the last time you smiled or felt happy in the presence of your partner, however, moving on may be the best course of action. You probably spend most of your time with him, so if you aren't happy when he's around, you probably aren't happy very often.