THE GAMES WE PLAY

Women often love to talk about men and how they are ruled by their baser urges. But men like to turn around and say that at least they are blatantly honest about it. With women, on the other hand, they say, you are always floundering in the deep end. They are such mistresses of their true feelings and emotions that a man never knows where he stands with them.


Men are often confused about how to read a woman’s psyche and have a common grouse, "I can never get it right". They wish that women would stop playing these nonsensical mind games and just tell them up front what they mean and what they should do and make it easier on the relationship and on them.

What are some of the games women play?

The game she plays : Playing Hard-to-get
This is one of the most age-old and popular games that women love to play. For a woman, half the fun is in the chase and if on the way, she discovers he wasn’t really the guy she thought he was, she has no qualms about making it a wild goose one!
What’s a guy to do?
If you know you’re being led up the garden path, keep all senses alert. Try not to chase her too much, act like a bit of a challenge yourself to entice her to take some initiative as well. Women only play hard-to-get when they know they can get away with it.

The game she plays : "I want your honest opinion"
When a woman says this to you all your senses should go on red alert. This is a time that calls for political correctness and diplomacy worthy of an electoral candidate. If she asks you, "Was I being rude to that catty woman, give me your honest opinion", watch your answer. This is more along the lines of a rhetorical question, one she doesn’t really expect an answer to, least of all an affirmative! Or even worse, if she asks, "Am I fatter than her?" and you really think she is, you’d better practice being a good liar or find a nice way of eating humble pie for the rest of your date.
What’s a guy to do?
Some men seem to have perfected the art of changing the topic of conversation or coming up with a convenient distraction when faced with such quandaries. But for the most part, you’re best off telling a barefaced lie and giving her what she wants to hear, or else face the music.

The game she plays : Silent treatment
You come home and you find yourself chilled to the bone. Or you’re having a perfectly normal date and suddenly she goes all quiet. She’s giving you the dreaded silent treatment and you haven’t a clue what’s got her to feel this way. Often men do eventually realize what the problem is, but are most often clueless initially and have the classic question, "What have I done now?" which seems to further irk and irritate the woman. She retreats further into her silence and no amount of coaxing and prodding will get her to reveal what the problem is, till you’re ready to tear your hair out in frustration.
What’s a guy to do?
As much as you may be tempted to do it, don’t just leave her alone to deal with what is upsetting her. You may think that by going after her, it makes you seem like the weak one. But remember, a woman wants to know that it matters to you – that her being upset makes a difference to you. If she isn’t willing to talk about it, give her a little time on her own, and then lighten the moment by telling her something that begs a response, or try just holding her and letting her vent some steam, which will hopefully melt some of that iciness.

The game she plays : The tease
She flirts with you and lets you think she’s under your spell, while she's actually casting her spell over you. She has you so captivated with her charms that you are totally helpless to do anything but be reeled in. And then, when you least expect it, she shows you the door. You feel like the worst kind of fool.
What’s a guy to do?
You have to have your wits about you and enjoy her for the moment, without getting your hopes up, or your wallet emptied. If you have been had by this kind of woman before, and you’re not such an astute judge of character yourself, stay close to a couple of mates who are!

The game she plays : Using sex
There are those women who use sex as their most powerful weapon to manipulate a man and get what they are after. In the initial stages of a relationship, they may allow certain liberties or get a guy hooked on to having great sex. And when he is truly a slave to his desires, they subtly wield their power over him to get him to do what they want, including the sulking sex kitten act when denied their way.
What’s a guy to do?
To deal with this kind of woman, you have to think with your head rather than your heart, or any other more basic organs of your body! Sex is something that two partners in a relationship enjoy for mutual pleasure and not a means for extortion or manipulation.

The game she plays : The victim
Most women know how to use tears to their advantage and most men are suckers for it. Especially when the relationship is new and each is still trying to impress the other, tears are a surefire way of bending a man to her will. If he decides to turn away, vowing not to succumb to emotional blackmail, it brings on a fresh onslaught of tears, with a heart-rending, "You don’t care for me any more" or "If you loved me you would do this for me".
What’s a guy to do?
Console her and empathize for the moment. And if you are in the wrong, of course, apologize. But also be firm and let her know that of course you care for her but when she cries, it is very difficult to have a normal conversation or make any headway in resolving an issue.

SCORPIO SWEETNESS

Hello people. i was born on november first....hence am a scorpio. A Scorpio is one of the most complicated signs in the Zodiac. Born between 23rd October and 21st November, these people are intelligent, passionate but also possessive and sometimes vindictive. Here is what you can look forward to if you are dating a Scorpio woman.
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The most noticeable aspect of a Scorpio is perhaps their intense natures and your girlfriend may be no different. A Scorpio woman is likely to be passionate in her emotions, loving and hating to the extreme. She would detest doing anything by half measures – she would either have all of an experience or nothing of it. She is likely to pour her entire self into the relationship and would expect no less from her partner. Which is why, a Scorpio woman makes one of the most passionate of lovers and a romantic relationship with her is one breathless experience after another. At the same time, once she changes partners, she will have nothing to do with an ex. You cannot be a former lover of a Scorpio and continue to be friends even after the relationship is over. For Scorpios, love is an all-or-nothing affair. A love life perpetually lived in the high key is not one for the faint-hearted but after experiencing its wild and hypnotic attraction, a man is unlikely to be happy with anything less.
Physical intimacy is an important part of a romantic relationship with Scorpios. For a woman who feels as strongly as she does, it is only natural that her emotions will find expression in physical passion too. Sex is likely to be wild and fun with your Scorpio girlfriend and she may even surprise you with an experimental move or two. But before that you need to gain her trust and that is not something to be taken lightly in a Scorpio.
Curiously, the tendency to give way to intense passions makes a Scorpio quite secretive too. This is in fact a survival tactic since wearing one’s on the sleeve all the time is akin to inviting disappointment and disaster. So you may find your Scorpio date quite reserved and cautious on the first couple of meetings. But don’t be taken by appearances since beneath that cool and collected exterior, she may be capable of experiencing tumultuous emotions and intense passions. More importantly however the quiet façade enables a Scorpio to judge the person before her with an amazing acuity. In fact Scorpios have an uncanny knack of looking straight into the heart of people and learning the truth about them. It is perhaps this curious ability which has lent shades of the psychic and occult to the bearers of the sign and particularly its women.  So if you are keen on making a good impression on your Scorpio girlfriend, your best bet is to be honest about yourself, since she may be able to look through deception and if there is one thing that Scorpios hate with all their hearts it is deceit and dishonesty.
Like everything else, a Scorpio tends to take his or her love life very seriously. While other women may date to have an active social life, for your Scorpio girlfriend it may be part of looking for a soul-mate, a love which is truly transcendental. And once found, she is unlikely to let it get away in a hurry. This tendency to hold on fiercely to their partners makes Scorpio lovers slightly possessive. Even though in the early stages of a relationship it may be flattering to think that someone needs you so much, later on the whole thing may begin to feel uncomfortable and even obsessive. For men who like their own emotional and physical space, the overwhelming attachment of a Scorpio woman may even lead to a feeling of claustrophobia and of being tied down.
Interestingly however, not all Scorpio women make jealous partners. For a temperament that is essentially possessive, one would expect a Scorpio girlfriend to go ballistic if you made so much as eye contact with another comely woman. However the strength of character and immense self-confidence of Scorpios makes them unlikely to be shaken by minor irritants. It is only when thought crosses over to action, then you had better watch out.
Watch out, because a Scorpio neither forgives nor forgets. Betraying a partner’s love and trust is the worst mistake you can make in a relationship with a Scorpio. This is because of the legendary instinct for revenge in a Scorpio. Not surprising since the Zodiac is symbolized by the Scorpion, a creature which bears a deadly sting in its tail. Like its symbol, a Scorpio will never forget a hurt and sooner or later will pay back in her own coin. So if you are a guy who has a Scorpio girlfriend and still meets up with his ex-flames over lunch dates, either you have a curious way of getting your emotional highs or simply like to live dangerously.
Scorpios are famous for their courage and tenacity and are thus useful people to have around in case of an emergency. They are not afraid to take up a task, no matter how impossible it may seem, and will see it through till the end. In keeping with their fixed sign, they are also extremely determined and will not opt out of a course, come what may. So if you are looking for a long term partner who will stand by you through the ups and downs of life and give you a hand in weathering all kinds of crises, a Scorpio is the woman for you.
Intense, complicated and unpredictable – a Scorpio woman revels in all these qualities. Most of all she likes being in control of her own destiny and of her relationship. She is unapologetic about her own powerful persona and in fact is attracted to the same kind of self-assurance and magnetism in others. A Scorpio woman is in search of a man who is confident and strong enough to take her for what she is and expects nothing less.