Find value in a failed relationship

Learn From
Lost Love

• Posted on Jun 02, 2011 12:38 PM by njixx
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You may have read the title of this post and laughed out loud -- especially if you are dealing with a failed (or failing) relationship. But we’re not kidding: You really can learn a lot from being part of something that didn’t work out, despite your initial skepticism. We’re here to let you in on some of the things a failed relationship can teach you.

How to appreciate what works

Life is full of ups and downs. The only reason the ups feel so fabulous is because the downs balance them out. You wouldn't recognize a great feeling if you'd never known a bad one. This same principle applies to relationships: Those that go wrong make finding Mr. Right that much sweeter. The next time you're trying to muddle your way through a love match gone wrong, think about how great you'll feel when you finally find someone with whom you really hit it off.

How to handle the rough patches

The next time you're tempted to see a failed relationship as a black mark on your dating career, think again. Every relationship gives you more experience dealing with the inevitable rough patches that go along with living with someone or being part of a couple. The more situations with which you become familiar, the better equipped you’ll be to handle them in future relationships.

Mistakes to avoid moving forward

Though devastating and emotionally draining, your relationship's demise has given you a lot of valuable insight into what to avoid the next time you fall in love. You can break bad habits, solve some communication problems and examine anything else that left your twosome in tatters. The more you’re aware of the mistakes that dragged your last relationship down, the less likely you are to repeat them.
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Avoid toxic relationships

Stay Out Of
Love Trouble

• Posted on Apr 11, 2011 10:16 AM by njixx

Falling into the trap of a toxic relationship is more common than you think, and no one is immune. To avoid getting hurt by someone who doesn’t have your best interests at heart, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

Stay away from a toxic twosome with these tips:

Go with your gut.

Intuition can't always tell you exactly when to say yes and when to say no, but it can help guide you past potentially bad situations. For example, if you've been out on a few dates with a guy who seems nice enough but somehow seems off, your gut might be telling you to move on. If you're in a relationship that no longer makes you happy, and your intuition is setting off little alarm bells, seriously consider getting out.

Don't put up with disrespect.

Someone who doesn't show you any respect won't give you the love you deserve, either; being in a relationship with such person is an emotional strain. Tell yourself that you won't put up with disrespect just for the sake of being part of a couple. If your guy doesn't think of you as an equal, the relationship has a good chance of turning toxic. He won't listen to you, he won't support you and he definitely won't feel the need to help out around the house.

Be OK with being alone.

Knowing that there's nothing wrong with being alone can save you from a relationship that isn't healthy. You'll be much more discerning as to whom you date, and you'll be more likely to extricate yourself from a situation that doesn't feel right.

Listen to friends & family.

Friends and family members often catch on to signs of a toxic relationship before the person who's involved in one. If you've been hearing a lot of rumblings lately about how you could do better and that you deserve a guy who's going to treat you right, re-evaluate your relationship to see if your loved ones might be onto something.