WHO IS THE MAN?

Men and women have many of the same needs, but they tend to be weighted differently. In relationships, we all want to feel loved and respected. However the way that is accomplished is somewhat gender specific. It’s the Mars, Venus syndrome.

When a man has the respect of his mate, it actually makes him want to become a better person. When it comes to relationships, feeling respected is a huge issue for most men. So, while some of the items on this list are very similar to the ones found in  you will notice that the list leans more toward respect than toward love. Realize that for a man, the two are basically synonymous.

In relationships, most men are easily encouraged. Your approval is a powerful motivator and applying some of these simple steps will yield great results.

1. Communicate with him respectfully.
2. Let him know he’s important to you.
3. Try to understand his reasons, even when you disagree.
4. Ask for his help.
5. Let go of the small stuff.
6. Tell him you love and respect him, and that you like him.
7. Give him some space for his hobbies
8. Show him that you respect him.
9. When you go out together don’t bring up problems.
10. Focus your attention on what he’s doing right.
11. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
12. Be happy and positive when he comes home.
13. Give him half an hour to unwind after work.
14. Don’t allow any family member to treat him disrespectfully.
15. Defend him to any family member who tries to dishonor him.
16. Compliment his efforts above his performance.
17. Seek his advice when you face challenges.
18. Set and work on goals together.
19. Don’t over commit yourself, leave some time for him
20. Be forgiving when he unintentionally offends you.
21. Find ways to show him you need him. Guys need to be needed.
22. Don’t fill his every spare moment with chores.
23. Peel away your pride and admit your mistakes.
24. Rub his neck and shoulders when he is stressed.
25. If he wants to talk, listen and ask viewpoint questions.
26. Express appreciation for his hard work.
27. Tell him you are proud of him for the person he is.
28. Give advice in a loving way; do not in a nag him.
29. Reserve some energy for him when he wants you sexually.
30. Don’t expect him to spend all his time on u.
31. Commend him for being a good man.
32. Brag about him to other people even when he’s not there.
33. Share your feelings with him but keep it abbreviated.
34. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.
35. Honor him and show your respect in front of everyone.
36. Get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to.
37. Be his helper in whatever ways he needs it.
38. Accept that sometimes he just wants to be with you and not talk.
39. When he’s in a bad mood don’t crowd him.
40. Help him accomplish his goals.
41. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him.
42. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
43. Thank him for things he’s done around the house.
44. Don’t expect him to always notice everything you do.
45. Consult him before making important plans.
46. Let him sleep in when he can.
47. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical with him.
48. Initiate sex periodically but be responsive more often.
49. Get to the point in your discussions without endless details.
50. Wink at him from across the room when you’re out together.
51. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he misspeaks.
52. Don’t quarrel over words.
53. Be kind and courteous with him.
54. Don’t blame him every time things go wrong.
55. When he blows it don’t say, “I told you so.”
56. Never argue over money, he already feels responsible.
57. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him.
58. Praise his good decisions and minimize the bad ones.
59. Don’t expect him to read your mind, we’re not that smart.
60. Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff.
61. Work to keep yourself in shape in every way.
62. When you’re angry don’t give him the silent treatment.
63. Look your best for him and make him proud to be seen with you.
64. Be his best cheer leader.
65. Acknowledge his successes in areas of everyday life.
66. Patiently teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
67. Thank him for just being himself.
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shoulda woulda coulda

So say you meet a guy, you guys totally click and by date three move to the next level (sex…just to clarify). While he still seems interested, it’s been taking him weeks to contact you again, what do you do? Is the connection a strong enough reason to keep giving him a chance? Or is it time to cut your losses and move on?
We asked 1,000 guys what they think and surprisingly (or not) 56% say you should let him go and move on.

“She should go. Obviously he isn’t all that interested if it takes him up to 3 weeks to follow through with their plans. Not saying having sex on the 3rd date is a bad thing but she should have held out a little longer. She should definitely not fight for this guy. If he’s worth fighting for he’ll fight for her.” – Paul, 43

“Sounds like he has something else going on. No point in hanging around, perhaps give him an ultimatum and then gauge his response. Or, just come out and ask him about his intentions. It is definitely time to get ready to possibly walk away if you are unable to deal with him in this capacity.” – Jon, 32

26% of guys think that you should keep trying.

“She could try being more patient and let nature take its course. After 3 dates she shouldn’t be expecting him to buy her a ring. She may want to think about the effects of sleeping men she meets on the internet more carefully.” – Matt, 27

“Are you really that desperate for a relationship, love, marriage, children, and life that you base a breakup on a guy going slow? Come on, cut some slack! Did you have a good time?  Does he have potential? If yes, keep dating the guy and ENJOY IT. If it works fine, if not that’s fine too. You’re 20…it’s not like you have biological clock ticking. Dating is supposed to be fun, not a job interview.” – John, 45

And last but not least; 18% of guys think you should talk to him before making any decision.

“She should try another time, talk to him seriously and if he is not serious, she should go” – Henri, 29

“I think what she should do is talk to the guy if he really wants him. Don’t put yourself in a position where you just assume that the guy is serious with you or not. Be open and honest with the guy about how he feels about you and if he sees a relationship with you.” – Joseph, 32

Bottom line it’s really up to you to decide if the connection is strong enough to stay around, but maybe in the future, even if you click, you should hold out a little longer to move to the next step.