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5 Phrases He Doesn't Want To Hear

• Posted on Jun 02, 2011 8:00 AM by njixx
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You should never censor yourself in front of a man, but sometimes it's better to let some things go unsaid. Here are five things you should avoid saying to your guy — either to avoid a fight, preserve his ego, or save your own sanity.

Top 5 phrases that send him to man cave mentality

 

"I don't care — let's do whatever you want to do."

One thing guys wish that women would do on date night is Just. Freaking. Pick. Something. Don't worry about whether he'll balk when you suggest a new foreign flick or roll his eyes if you say you want Japanese food. You're as much a part of this relationship as he is, and trust us, he'll love that you took the initiative to suggest something fun.

"Bradley Cooper/Jon Hamm/Justin Timberlake is soooooooo hot!"

No one loves man candy like we do, but if you go on and on about what a stud biko adema is, it'll make your guy retreat into his man cocoon. No one — male or female — can compete with an airbrushed, professionally-gym-trained, designer-clad superstar. Admire your favorite actor's man parts in private — and save the verbal praise for your guy when he cleans up nice for dinner.

"Does this make me look fat?"

We all know that no one wins if you ask him this.

"Do you think she's cute?"

Unless he's always able to contort his face into a believable state of revulsion before you get the "t" out in "cute," he won't be able to give you an answer that won't send you into a rage. Listen, there are other hot women in the universe; you can't really expect him to say that Angelina Jolie "isn't his type." Don't force the issue unless he's openly gawking at anything female or flirting with the waitress right in front of you. Then it might be time to reassess why you're in the relationship, not whether you measure up.

"What are you thinking?"

One of our guy friends summed his thoughts on this question nicely: "Trust us: You don't want to know." It's nice to retain some of your relationship's mystery, right? Also: Sometimes a blank stare is just a blank stare. Fill up your own mental canvas with something scintillating — like Patrick Dempsey wearing nothing but a stethoscope and a smile.

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• Posted on Apr 27, 2011 1:53 PM by koshi
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listen more, talk less.

i highly advise against spending too much time talking about yourself, which can actually put a damper on any connection the two of you might have. Taming your urge to talk is tough, especially when you're nervous, but  thinking of the date as a job interview with drinks.. "If you know you want the job, you'd better learn a lot about the company," she says. "You can't do that if all you are doing is talking about yourself." kwanza this applies to madame wengi sana....under 25s

Ask the right questions.

Focus on questions about personal, overarching topics rather than work, when men hear the question, "What do you do for work?" what they actually hear is, "How much do you make?" Because you don’t want to come off as a gold digger ama u have a par time job hapa kstreet. asking questions such as "What was your best meal ever?" and "What did you do for your 21st birthday?" -- things that will truly help you get to know him as a person, not a bank account.

dress appropriately.

Showing too much skin on your first (or even second) date is never a good idea.  being selective in your approach. Pick one asset you love about your body and flaunt that (legs, breasts, shoulders, booty, etc), but choose only one, not three. If things go well, you will have other dates on which to reveal other assets. "If you can't think of what you like about your body and what to flaunt, then you shouldn't go on the date at all! Men love self-confidence. Flaunt that first."

be at your best.

Having one successful date is great, but there’s a lot of pressure where following up is concerned. treating the first 10 dates like they're all the very first. "What you wear, how you smell and what you look like matter to men. If they see you put your best foot forward for your first few dates and then peter out later, they think you don't care," she explains, adding that men always want to think you are trying for them. Doing little things that will make it look like you're still trying.  "Shave, shower, primp, pluck and preen. Always,"